Christian Marriage

Recently I came across a blog (actually Warren found it) that I found very interesting. It was a blog warning against the advice from a website called christianmarriage.com   We as Christians need to be very careful in practices we engage in and the resources we use to get our information from and lead others to. What are your thoughts????

"ChristianMarriage.com is Wrong About Christian Marriage

At ChristianMarriage.com I found what I initially thought was a great resource on Christian Marriage. As I got into reading the site, I began to see the fire and brimstone attitude that has driven so many away from Christ. ChristianMarriage.com seems mired in the Old Testament.

The site calls on Old Testament Law and seems to level judgment and threats against those who are sinning. The first thing that ChristianMarrage.com should know is that Christians are not to pass judgment on anyone. Christians are commanded to love people – all people – to attract them to Christ; not condemn people and drive them away. And they should know that they (the pastors at ChristianMarrage.com) are not sin free – we are all sinners – we are human. That is why Christ came:[more] to extend His loving Grace and Forgiveness to all of us in spite of our sins (when we accept his free gift of Salvation).

But that is not the worst of it! ChristianMarriage.com actually makes the bold assertion that Christian husbands should be allowed to take more than one wife. They say that concubines are ok and good. Wow. The justification? That King David was a polygamist. They maintain that since the Bible says in 1 Kings 15:5 that "David did [that which was] right in the eyes of the LORD, and turned not aside from any [thing] that he commanded him all the days of his life, save only in the matter of Uriah the Hittite", it makes polygamy ok for Christians. They also point to other Old Testament history of men with more than one wife.

The fact is that all men fall short of the perfection of Christ – for He was the only Spotless Lamb – which means that even though David did what was commanded by the Lord, he was still a man and a sinner. There are many arguments I could use, but I only need one: what does the Bible specifically say about marriage?

God made Eve from Adam. Each has one counterpart: one man, one woman. Adam did not take his daughters as wives. He had one wife which is God's design for marriage. "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." – Genesis 2:24. This statement is repeated in the New Testament in both Matthew 19:5 and Ephesians 5:31: "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

It says specifically the two become one in marriage. Not "the two or more become one." Not "the two become one and then another can become one with them." Not "the three become one." It refers specifically to two. Marriage is modeled after Adam and Eve. It is not modeled after Adam, Eve and Jane.

Also, in the New Testament, when referring to husbands and wives, the singular is always used.

Ephesians 5:28 …He who loves his wife loves himself. Not "He who loves all his wives loves himself." And in Eph 5:33: "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Not "wives" or "wife and/or wives."


And the final proof about Christian Marriage… in Mark 10 Jesus Christ specifies even more clearly in his own words:

Jesus replied. "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." (emphasis added)

Christian Marriage = One husband and one wife.

I think I would rather listen to my Lord and Savior than to some sinners (not an insult: for all men are sinners) over at ChristianMarriage.com. (What a waste of a great domain name… sheesh! – Don't be misled, by the way…)"